It’s the end of the school year and with that comes the obligatory bombardment of social media pictures and post about all genius children receiving every award under the sun. While there is absolutely nothing wrong with celebrating their accolades because I know first hand how hard they work to achieve them, I can’t help but wonder about the average kids.
I’m not advocating for them to be awarded. Don’t even get me started on the give every kid an award society we have become. No. Just no. What I am getting at is as a parent to kids who fall all over the spectrum when it comes to academic success, I often find myself comparing my kids. I also get that it is totally my issues to deal with it. However, I don’t think I am the only one.
I often wonder why more parents don’t publicly celebrate the fact that their kid worked their butt off to get a straight C’s. As I sit here brainstorming about the reasons why, I realized I’m part of the problem. I’m quick to post that picture of my kid getting an award or making a great play at the plate but I’m all crickets otherwise.
At the end of this school year all of our kids were promoted to the next grade without any hoopla or us attending a single special ceremony.
My 13-year-old daughter Karisa, received her first B this year. The truth is after the first semester she was disappointed in herself. As parents we could have either helped her understand it was not the end of the world and if she was truly doing her best it was okay or we could have aided in her disappointment. She tried so hard but a B was the best she could do. I am more proud of that B than I am the rest of the A’s that came easy to her. She finished 8th grade with a 3.83 GPA and a high school credit.
My 11-year-old son Kaiden was lucky to pass 5th grade. Okay not really but it felt that way. 5th grade is hard, Yo! This is our third bout with it and it makes me cringe that we have we will have another go round. This kid just doesn’t care all that much for school. He is beyond smart. Like intelligent kind of smart but school is just not his jam. He received his first C this year and I hit the ceiling. Why? Because I know this kid could do better. He one upped me though by bringing home three C’s on his final report card. For the love, people! On the flip side he was praised endlessly for his character, kindness and willingness to always help.
My 7-year-old daughter Kailey views school as a social gathering. She probably is the smartest of them all but isn’t interested in school for the sake of learning. She retains everything, everything. She can re-tell you anything she has learned with great depth and understanding but she doesn’t do well to sit and test. She gets bored and finds it more interesting to people watch than to do her own work. Math is her nemesis but she is totally cool with it. She’s the one who wears an “outfit” to school everyday, has a million friends and is a magnet for girl drama. Help me!
It is my promise to you that at the end of this school year I stand in solidarity with every parent and give praise for the fact that our kids are still alive! That my friends deserves the award!