I thought I should introduce you to the key characters that make up many of the stories chronicled in Another Housewife. My continuous goal is to become a better wife and mother. Here are the reasons why:
Kailey (5) is the baby of the family. She is a vivacious, pink loving, princess wanna-be, football loving, tomboy who loves is obsessed with pigs. In other words she is perfect. She started Kindergarten in the Fall and has already been pegged as a social butterfly. She loves to give hugs, plan parties, be with her friends, give gifts and never, ever stops talking.
Our Parenting Challenge: To stop giving her a pass because she is a baby. We need to follow through on our parenting instead of giving her pass because she is the baby. Our biggest challenge her coming into our room to sleep with us at about midnight every night part. Yeah, it really needs to stop!
Kaiden (9) is in the third grade and is for all intense a true jock. He loves to watch any and all sports and ESPN is his favorite television channel. He just finished his second year of tackle football and is now playing Spring baseball. He is rough, tough, rowdy and a momma’s boy all wrapped into one. He is the kind of kid who will give you the shirt off his back, let you cut in line, give you the bigger piece and concede in a disagreement to keep the piece.
Our Parenting Challenge: He is starting to push his boundaries. He does not like school (except for P.E., lunch, and recess) but is very smart and gets straight A’s. He is starting to realize his sisters take advantage of his kindness and is fighting back by antagonizing them, day and night. Our biggest challenge is disciplining him without breaking his spirit. Although he is rough and tough, he is a very emotional boy.
Karisa (11) is in the sixth grade. She is a book loving, artsy introvert. She lives vicariously through her siblings and others because she is shy and scared to put herself out there. She is a smarty pants in school and loves to learn. She has a very kind heart but it gets overshadowed by her take charge need for things to be done her way, at home. She is starting to come out o her shell by being loud and silly at home. She is in her thirs year of softball and it has helped her branch out and gain confidence in her gifts. She is currently trying to decide what her “style” is.
Our Parenting Challenge: It is almost impossible to get her to open up to us. She keeps everything to her self, even simple things like who her favorite musician is or the best part of a movie. “I don’t know” is her go to answer. It’s like pulling teeth. I find this age, and her being a girl, the most challenging because I didn’t have a mother growing up. I don’t know what is “normal” or how to build a healthy, open and honest mother/daughter relationship. The fact that we are exactly alike is a little bit challenging too. I’m determined to keep trying.
Kaleb (20) is my step-son and doesn’t live at home. He lives with his mom so he is not technically out on his own yet but he is not here as much either. He does come home for every holiday (real and made-up), birthdays and family happenings.
Our Parenting Challenge: We are trying to figure out how to parent an adult child. How much space do we give him? How involved should we get in his decisions? I will admit that the real challenge to these questions is the same as when we he was a child and that is us not wanting to overshadow his mom.
Me & Mr. C have been married for ten years. We are both stubborn, controlling, first-born children who left home when we were teenagers. Our core values are the same for the most part but our personalities are totally opposite. Mr. C very rarely gets angry, can talk out any situation in an even tone, is a spontaneous person who believes rules are suggestions, can talk to anyone about anything and has an it could be worse attitude. I on the other hand am a Type-A, rule following gal who gets angry at the drop of a dime, introverted, friendless person who thinks everything is the end of the world. Yeah, basically we are a match made in heaven! Despite our ups and downs we love each other to the moon and back and are dedicated to God, our marriage and raising our kids, everything else is secondary. Oh did I mention I think he is the most handsome man on the planet? He is.
Although I continue to make progress when it comes to being a housewife, I still feel like I have no idea what I am doing. You know what? I am learning to be okay with that. Life is an adventure. I am determined to leave a legacy one memory at a time, even if I have to make mistakes first.
What are your biggest parenting challenges?
Do you have a child who is exactly like you?
Are you and your husband as opposite as Mr. C and I?